Other Driver Deemed to Be 100% at Fault!

 

Oh, thank the Lord, and I mean that!

I mean, we knew it was, but ya never know with insurance companies.

Update - How Did He Miss This? (Pic Added)

  

Just got my test results and I have also fractured my 11th rib. 

I kept telling the doc my ribs actually hurt worse than my back and that it hurt when I breathed in, but he kept blaming seatbelt muscle pain.

I also told them the brace was killing my ribs and I specifically asked about a possible rib fracture on discharge, and was told "No" - and there is no mention if it at all in my discharge paperwork whatsoever.

HOWEVER, it's clear as day on my radiology report ... circled in red, separated out by itself, just 2 lines down from the vertebral fracture.

How do you miss that???

Me: "Are you sure? Because it sure feels like one, it's worse than the back pain." 

Doctor: "Yep, I'm sure  - there's no rib fracture, just soft tissue swelling."

Um - yes, there is, Dude - you just missed it, though it's clear as day on my radiology report - and that brace you gave me made it worse, not accommodating for this.

Bitch, I'm a medical transcriptionist, I used to type this stuff before it went to AI - and I read ALL documentation later, when others don't.  There is a fracture of the 11th rib mentioned clear as day on the radiologist's report, you just skimmed it/didn't read it properly - so cease and desist with the gaslighting, please😂

I didn't say any of that, of course, just said "Alrighty" and put the brace on, though it killed my ribs!

The reason this is important is because they don't wrap ribs anymore - that is because they've realized that any further compression on rib fractures can worsen the fracture -  thus, why the back brace was increasing my rib pain, because it wasn't allowing accomodation for that - there will have to be a custom brace made to accomodate that.

HOWEVER again - as mentioned, I'm great with physical pain, I have a high pain threshold - so I was joking and laughing with the staff, too - perhaps he didn't realize how much pain I was actually in?

I did mention several times that the ribs hurt worse than the back, especially when they put the brace on - and for him to tell me there's no fracture when it says it clear as day on the radiologist's report is just not paying attention.

This is was Baptist Health Main - and to be honest, I was surprised at how lax they were and they weren't busy. 

(The nurse did say that this particular doctor "disappeared" for hours sometimes. Yay, that's helpful lol. I did wonder.)

Everyone was super nice still though. It surprised me because we've always had excellent care. Shoudda gone to Hamburg location lol. 

Oh well, seeing my regular doc today who can tell me what I need to do about THAT, and will be seeing neurosurgeon Wednesday. 

This is proof that doctors don't half read their documentation, and it's only going to get worse with AI. 

Thus, always, always, ALWAYS read all your documentation later, folks.

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PS - I'm not really mad; in fact, I feel validated - I'm saving my pissed energy for dealing with auto insurance companies! 😂

However, I did nicely report this to the ER that it was missed, but very nicely. 

I Know This Is Cheesy, But ... My Hummingbird Visitor ...

 

So I have hanging basket of pink petunias on my balcony, I've had them all summer. Every day, a hummingbird comes and visits them while I'm sitting out there, just very briefly, and then flies away.

Now - anyone who knows me knows that I'm a bird lover, but I especially love hummingbirds - they fascinate me. In fact, when my mom sends me a birthday card, she always gets one with a hummingbird. 

Though I'm mostly lying down, I get up every now and then to avoid stiffness, as well as pneumonia from lying so much. 

Today, the hummingbird came by twice while sitting in my chair roughly 4 feet away from the flowers - and it literally flew over to me and hovered right in front of my face at eye level with me, like just checking me out!

Hummingbirds are skittish and don't stay long, which is why I'm never able to get a picture - so that's especially weird that it would fly directly over to me, 5 feet away, hover right in front of my face - twice.

Maybe it knows what I normally look like without the brace on and was curious what that is about lol. Maybe it was just curious in general about the lady that put the flowers up for their daily meal. 

So I just said "Well, Hello, beautiful! Thank you for visiting me."

I have no idea why - but it gave really perked me up from my worry!

And yes - I am on pain meds, but only taking them twice a day instead of 4, only when I really need them - so this was NOT a hydrocodone-induced hallucination! 😂

So those moments of worry that start to creep in about the financial impact of what's happened?

I normally just try to redirect to healing up quickly being the best way to fix that situation, as well as to focus on what I can control and what I can't, especially on a weekend when so much is closed.

So this happened in one of those moments where worry was creeping in - but this time, it was the hummingbird, rather than pain meds OR my thought redirection that inspired me! 😂

Hey, who knows, maybe there's something to that Native American belief that nature sends spiritual messengers during stressful times. Or maybe it's coincidence. 

All I can say is, this is not the first time something in nature came very close to me, when it normally doesn't, during a stressful time  - and I know I'm not alone in that.

I mean, I teared up, I had such a hopeful feeling with that. Okay, maybe THAT's the pain med effect, that part, because I haven't cried at all since this happened lol. 

But what is more inspirational than nature?

I know it's cheesy, but cool thing to see right now, right? 

PS - Picture

 

So this is my lower abdomen today - sexy, right? 😂

(My hips and legs are to the left, so yes, I was wearing my seatbelt correctly, hips are bruised too.)

Yeah, so clearly I don't have washboard abs anymore at 57, but the lumps there are actually swelling from the bruising and little cuts from the crash - and I have one big one on my knee - but I didn't even feel them until today!

So ... it's this impact of the seatbelt that caused the compression fracture.

Also, this brace I have to wear is super sexy as well. 😂

I told the security guard when leaving the hospital, who was wearing a tactical vest that looks similar, only my brace is heavier and comes down to my lower back -  "So now I know what it feels like to wear one of these, but I don't look as cool." 😂

Also, the insurance people asked if we had any pictures of the accident.

Sure, sure, yeah - her car flipped over and I broke stuff, so the first thing I thought of naturally was a selfie next to our totaled cars😂

(Sarcasm.)

Nah, she was a super nice lady, but she knew I broke stuff and how bad it was, so I'm pretty sure nobody was taking pictures. 

Just grateful everyone walked away, right? 

Like I said, could've been SO much worse. 

Car Accident - Car is Totalled - Phone Chargers Were in Car

 Hi all - just giving an update here because our phones died at our chargers were in the car - so if you can't reach us, don't worry, we just have to get chargers. 😂

(We had both chargers because one only intermittently works and like to have backup.)

So Mark was driving down Reynolds Road, I was the passenger. 

We had a green light and were going about 40 miles an hour, when the other driver - a young girl - tried to hurry and turn left at a flashing yellow arrow to get into Lexington Green right in front of us. 

We smashed into her, flipping her car upside down. 

.Miraculously, she was absolutely fine, can you believe it?

Poor little thing was crying, she felt so bad.

Mark is fine, other than the lovely seatbelt pain across the chest. 

Me, on the other hand -  the airbag somehow completely missed me (which was actually a good thing at first, I thought I was fine, but then my chest started spasming and EMS insisted I go to the ER. I knew it was muscle spasm rather than heart or lung issue, but they wanted to be sure.

Glad I did because as it turns out, I broke my L1 vertebrae (lower spine) in compression fracture and have a giant bruise across my lower abdomen from the seatbelt, and I also  have a sprained ankle, 

So I'm wearing a super attractive back brace, now, and will be for about 6-12 weeks - sexy! 😂

Doc wanted to keep me for 24 hours for observation for possible delayed internal injuries, but I was like "Hell, no, at that $10,000 a day hospital bill! 😂

I'm fine - I think by now I'd know if I had that, so all good.

I'm super good with pain, so I initially just had Tylenol and a muscle relaxer - but when neither touch ed the back pain, I knew something was up with my back worse than spasm - so they gave me hydrocodone.

I'm okay, I promise - but what I really want to say is this...

If none of us had been wearing seatbelts - the other drivers or us - we wouldn't be here today.

Always, always wear your seatbelt!

It's gonna be a huge bill we can't afford, but we'll make a way - but I guess I shouldn't be worried about that now, just worry about healing.

Hey, maybe my grandma's doctor was right and I need to rethink women drivers. 😂

KIDDING - one young girl does not make all women drivers bad drivers!

And no shaming her, she felt bad enough - and like none of us have turned left on a yellow arrow, right?

The weird thing is, as I mentioned about my memory earlier, I remember all of it - Mark doesn't.

Of course, the airbag completely missed me but hit Mark in the head, head on - but he's okay - he just doesn't remember it.

The other weird thing is, you know how I said I lost the ability to scream years ago?

Yep - still have that. 😂

I heard Mark say "She's pulling out, we're gonna hit! I have nowhere to go!"

(There was a median to our left.)

I just drew in my breath - which is what I do instead of scream - and said "Oh GOD!" - and WHAM.

But we're okay. 

And here's the weirdest part of all - 2 days ago, I got a chill and said to Mark "Something really bad is about to happen - but it's going to be okay, okay?"

I thought I had lost that premonition sh*t with menopaulse - apparently not.

However, what good is knowing what's coming without giving me details as to how to prevent it?

Oh well, wish us luck, or pray is that's your thing - it's gonna get rough financially. 

Lastly, I just mentioned a couple of posts ago that I probably felt the closest to Sibling B of all Mark's siblings.

Though at a Zac Brown concert, Sibling B called me immediately when Mark told him.

I told him he needed to get back to singing and dancing immediately, I was fine! 😂

He said a little prayer on the phone and told me his friends were praying.

He is so great, right?

My husband cried after he called, so touched.

I teared up, but that's another PTSD issue - I literally can't cry until it's safe, isn't that weird?

Anyway, again, if you can't reach us, it's just because our phones are out of charge, but we're okay - don't worry!

Love you all! 

Trump Jr. Gets Married in The Bahamas - Courtesy of Umar Kremlev, Russian Oligarch Close to Putin (UPDATED)

I had a PS post to the last one, but I figured enough was said about some personal things I'm working on about myself, and then I decided - enough going up my own arse and expecting people to follow 😂

Anyway, in case your news isn't telling you, independent investigative reporting journalism group, ProPublica  - to which I have been subscribed for the last 8 years - investigated Trump Jr's wedding in the Bahamas in May, uncovering the fact that it was paid for by a Russian oligarch named Umar Kremlev, with close ties to Putin.

But pay no attention to the man behind the curtain folks, nothing to see, here  - there were no Trump ties to Russia, remember? 😉

Then again, his followers don't care - and some of them actually admire Putin.

Um ... Putin is NOT cool. 

He's former KGB for the Communist Soviet Union and still runs his country like that - including murdering any opposition with nerve agents (Nalvany, the Skripals) and invading smaller countries to seize resources rather than pay-to-play trade, like this is the Middle Ages.

The only difference between the Soviet Union then and Russia now is what happens when capitalism runs amuck without checks and balances -  but only for a select few Putin-approved political cronies - whom we call oligarchs.

(Oligarchy - small group ruling over the people. )

An oligarchy has always existed in Communist Russia -  it's what actually always happens in Communism in practice versus theory - it's just out in the open now. 

And you may not realize it, but us attacking countries like Venezuela and seizing of their oil, and about to do likewise in Iran, is essentially the same thing Russia did with the Ukraine and Crimea.

(This is one of the many reasons why I said that despite all of Trump and the modern Republican Party's anti-socialist rhetoric, methinks the smeller is the feller. Just because somebody doesn't paint themselves up as a socialist or communist dictator and points the fingers at others in deflection/distraction attempt, doesn't mean he isn't one.)

Of course they accomplish it by claiming these countries have horrible leaders or WMD or biological warfare - that's how they've always justified it since the 1970s.

And even if true that their leader is a criminal, who another country elects is none of our business unless they come at us?

If they want to elect a total psychopath, that's their business - I mean, have we? 😂

As for WMD, again, I need proof of those in Iran - and hell, Republican Saint Reagan gave them the capabilities for that in the first place!

Also, if it's really about WMD, how come nobody ever goes after China or Russia, or even North Korea, whom we know for a fact have these capabilities, hmm?

Answer: Both because there's a chance we'd get our asses kicked if we went after China or Russia (and North Korea's because China would help)  - AND - because it's not really about WMD or atrocities committed against their own people or faith -  and it hasn't been for the last 50 years.

It's about what it's always been about for the last 50 years - OIL - not wanting to pay for it or crushing any opposition to our rights to it.

And yet the same people who believe a plethora of wild, baseless, conspiracy theories without a shred of evidence, still keep turning a blind eye to Trump and falling for the same propaganda as gospel without question😂

Trump was right when he said he could literally shoot someone on 5th avenue and not lose followers.

Gas prices and inflation are out of control due to a war he had no plan for, underestimated the ease of, and now, we're rapidly running out of ammo for - and MAGA still doesn't care - Trump said we needed to do it, do it.

Ties to Epstein came the closest to toppling Trump, and yet his followers bought the distraction tactics there, too (cough, cough - big public ICE immigration crackdowns, the Iran War?).

I swear to goodness, someone could have a proven unaltered, non-AI video of him with a 12-year-old girl and credible witnesses, and they'd still say it was fake news or it's okay, he's God's chosen envoy, he can do what he likes. 

And THAT, Ladies and Gentlemen, is when you know that a group and its leader have reached cult-mentality status. 

We joke a lot about that, but seriously - if your blind belief in a leader is so strong that it overshadows your intellect, causing you to turn a blind eye to things that if others did, you'd lost your sh*t - OR  - causes you to doubt your own eyes and ears in favor of what that leader tells you - what would YOU call it?

Well, at first, I'd call it a dysfunctional family, group, or systemic mindset.

Throw in ignoring actual criminal and/or deviant behavior, that's the next step up to the most severe form of a group/systemic dysfunction - cult mentality.

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PS - as of yesterday, there is a call in Congress to investigate this situation.

I'm sure it will likely turn out as the investigations before regarding Trump and Russia, people will turn a blind eye once again or make excuses.

Crazy Dashing Night

So last night was ... different, shall we say. I WAS warned that when Kentucky loses game, football and especially basketball, people get cranky for a couple of days -  a fact I should already know from my college days as a cocktail waitress!

Also, Sunday nights are already notoriously low tips. I have no idea why - because people already blew their money on Friday and Saturday?

Thus, I've spoken with a few dashers that stopped dashing entirely on Sunday, resulting just this past week on an additional $2 added per trip on Sunday nights to try to recruit them back.

This is both a blessing and a curse, because it means there's not enough dashers on, so there's plenty of trips, but it also means those dashing will invariably get stacked orders - 1-3 orders together.

As I ended up having to explain to one of the customers who complained about the time, you can bypass this by paying an extra $2 for "direct delivery" and they won't stack you, regardless of amount of dashers on, and if they do stack you somehow by mistake, then you can ask for a refund. I also explained it's frustrating for me, too, as I lose out on trips.

The thing is, I got into this conversation because the second restaurant was 15 minutes behind, so I always text or call to see if that's an okay wait or they wish to cancel. 

And that is what I did here, only the customer didn't answer. 

So I texted "My apologies, the restaurant is 10-15 behind and I received 2 orders here. Would you like me to wait or cancel?"

Then, just before I rounded the corner to drop it off, I finally receive a text saying "We see our order got delayed with DoorDash - again. Our food will again be cold."

I assured them that I put their food in an insulated bag, as well as what I said above.

Which again, I texted 20 minutes ago to give them a choice to cancel or wait - and they're just now responding, right as I turn the corner to their house - but I said nothing about that. 

This is why most dashers don't even bother to communicate with them and just cancel without asking, because sometimes they don't even realize the time until you just told them, and that's IF they even bother to answer the phone or look at the texts 😂

However, it's good customer service - and MOST customers actually appreciate the choice - which is why I have all 5-star ratings, with a particular emphasis on communication and friendliness, and 8 times where customers felt I went above and beyond.

Sometimes, they actually come back up my tip for explaining this to them and sharing in their frustration because I lose trips having to wait.

IMO, besides just good customer service, letting the customer know you're on it and you DO care - it also lets them know that certain things are beyond the dasher's control.

There was another person that complained to me, which is unusual,  but I smoothed that one over, too.

But then the very last delivery of the night, things went nuts.

I was like "Is it a full moon or what?"  😂

Here's what happened. 

I get 2 orders for the same restaurant, 2 different customers.

This restaurant, which is usually on the ball and already has the orders ready when I arrive, was way behind - and training a new person on carryout food, to boot. 

It became clear to me, and the other 5 dashers waiting there, that the new person was nervous, and wasn't receiving any help at all from other staff (though he never said so).

I texted the customers to let them know this, as I do.

30 minutes later, Mark comes storming in the store demanding to know what the problem is, yelling about how we're losing money.

I told him to please let me handle this - this person is new, we've all been new before - just take a seat.

At that point, I said quietly to the manager, essentially just standing there, staring off into space at the cash register, "Well, we have all been new, I get it - but my husband has a point, we are starting to lose trips and money. Any way someone could help him? I think he may need help and may be just too proud to say so?" 

Manager just says "No - he's got to learn to do this himself."

I'm thinking to myself "During dinner rush, when you have 5 dashers already standing here, waiting for 40 minutes for upscale fast food? Allllrighty." - but I say nothing.

When I turn back around, the other dashers are shaking their heads - and one dasher's face has turned red, he's getting so mad, and snatched his order from their hands when it was ready.

Then, while I'm waiting, I call the first customer and tell her the issue, it's going on 40 minutes. 

She says "Um - I got your first message and thought it was a mistake, because I didn't order anything from DoorDash. Which card was used?"

I explained I can't see the card number, they don't show us that so no dashers can steal the numbers. 

She asks for the address.

Turns out, it was her best friend, using her DD account, with her own card, so it's fine.

Okay, Fire #1 put out.

40 minutes later, the food is finally ready - Fire #2 is put out - or so I think.

Now, we discovered the second customer put in the wrong address on the second order.

When she did put in the right one, it was a huge apartment complex and the app only led to the apartment leasing office with no pin. She gave me the apartment number, but she gave no info about which building, which entrance, or which way to turn to get to it. 

Sometimes the app pins it for you, sometimes it doesn't and just takes you to the apartment leasing office - so word to the wise, always a good idea to put in any helpful details as a customer.

Thus, we spent 15 minutes trying to find each other in the dark with flashlights, using the phone and the apps to see where each other were lol. 

You usually don't even have to tell them to add directions, they get it after that, and you just laugh about the absurdity of it all together and go on.

Fire #3, put out.

Fire #4, was essentially Mark, who was going ballistic over lost time and money, estimating we'd lost about $50 bucks over this mess, now mad at ME.

Mark: "God dammit, Chrystal, you were too nice again! I could tell by the looks on their faces, they were like 'Oh, this lady is always nice and patient, she'll wait and be patient." People take advantage of it, and when you finally do blow, it comes as a surprise and people don't get why. I know you CAN fight back, but you wait too long!" 

"This isn't just like they got the order wrong, this is lost income because of their incompetence! You NEED to get in their faces and yell and point and tell them to do their jobs!" 

Me: "What you want is for me to act like a Karen, after  I just stepped over my bounds somewhat already yesterday with somebody? And I'm NOT going to act like a Karen in a public place regardless, that's just not me - that's your way, not mine." 

"And you do NOT seem to understand that men CAN can do that, but women can NEVER do that - especially in the South, you just refuse to get that." 

"Maybe women can in the North, but you can't do that here, especially as a woman. You will be branded a Karen or a crazy bitch, which can happen anywhere, yes - but it  definitely will in the South." 

"Also, my grandma used to say you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar and she was right, especially here. You have to sugar coat everything, passive-aggressive is the only language people understand here."

"I tried to explain this to my sister, Kim, at a store here one day, after she tore into a store clerk here, after she'd lived in Chicago for years, after we grew up in Cincy." 

"She romanticizes the South and life here, basing it upon childhood visits, but she never actually lived here, especially as an adult. It's a real wake-up call when you actually live here as an adult." 

"In fact, I eventually had to squeeze her hand after the horrified looks on the store clerks' faces,  and whispered to her to please let me handle the situation -  and she still didn't get it, either. "

"Your way -  or Kim's Karen way - will accomplish nothing here but NOT getting what you need, dismissed as a crazy Karen, spit in your food, and possibly going viral on TikTok 😂."

Mark: "I don't care what they think! In Detroit, this is the only way to get shit done! I'm gonna drive back to this store now, and let them know how much money we lost, we're not on hourly like they are."

Me: "Oh my GOD, no!"

Mark: "Well, you may not bitch, but I will, They cost us at least $50 bucks we desperately need right now for gas to keep doing this!"

Me: "Okay, let's go after I drop off this last order  - BUT - here's my compromise. We go back, but let ME do the talking to practice being more assertive in the moment - BUT it's my way, which is discussion, not tirade - deal? " 

"IF you promise to let me handle it, Mr. Detroit, and not to say a freaking word."

So I'm shaking inside doing this, but it was better than Mark doing it, believe me!

So I go in, and the moment I walk in, the entire front line of people of color just stared at me like I was some sort of racist Karen.

Uh-oh - since I'm pretty sure I was nice about it - WTH happened after I left?

So I just smiled and said: "Hi! Is ... everything okay?"

They all seemed surprised, softened, and then smiled and said "Hi" back -  appearing confused.

Then they shifted/pointed with their eyes toward the manager.

I see - so they all got reamed after I left - for doing exactly what he told them to do - back off and let the new guy do it all himself so he could learn, though it was dinner rush.

So I asked the manager, again standing at the cash register -  doing nothing but staring off into space -  if I could have a word - but  now within earshot of the others.

"I just wanted to discuss with you what happened tonight, so we can both improve and prevent it happening again in the future, will that be all right? Because as you know, I deliver here all the time and it's normally not like this." 

"I don't know if you all know how dashers get paid, many people don't. So we're not paid hourly or by mileage, we only get $2 per trip regardless of distance unless there's a promotion; thus, we rely on our tips rather than hourly, which they can adjust up or down." 

"The problem with that is, the customer doesn't know whose fault it is, all they know is their food is late and then we get the blame."

"Now, these orders were already a mess for a multitude of reasons, it was a cursed order from the beginning lol -  wrong address put in, a friend used another friend's account etc., - none of which is your fault." 

"However, waiting 40 minutes on small orders did have the biggest hand in keeping that snowball effect rolling -  culminating in loss of over an hour of trips, worth about $50 bucks, you feel me on that?"

"I'm not mad, I just have a suggestion - it was pretty clear the new person needed help, though he didn't say so. None of us likes to ask for help, but it was clear to me and other dashers that he needed it." 

"As you know, I come in here almost every night and you all are on the ball, and everyone can have a bad night. His trainer, here, she's excellent - smart, funny. And HE'S gonna be great with time, too -  but he may need more help right now?"

At this point, the girl smiled at me and mouthed "thank you." 

Then she leaned back and smiled at the new kid to get his attention to what I was saying, praising him  - making it clear that they had gotten reamed over it after I left and that it wasn't me being hard on them - which explained the chilly reception when I returned.

However, realizing that immediately is why I chose to say what I had to say in front of them this time. 😉

The manager said "That's true, I'm a new manager and nobody likes to ask for help. I probably need to recognize that better. "

I said, "No worries, it's all good, we all have learning experiences, myself included - and I know this isn't your usual - just wanting to make sure you knew my intent wasn't to offend or criticize, just offer ways to help us all get this food out in time so we all stay out of trouble lol."

"Hope I haven't offended anyone, just brainstorming about how we can prevent the same from repeating itself."

Then, of course, as I was walking away, Mark comes trotting up there, renegging on our deal to let me handle it, leans over and says something clearly shitty as I was walking away.

THEN I got a snippy, for sure - with Mark! 😂

"Mark? This was my compromise with you versus just walking away VS you going ballistic, so what the hell did you just say? What did he just say to you?"

No one answered me, including Mark, so I still have no idea what he said - because the only response I got from anyone was the trainer girl just winking at me 😂

(The wink meaning both she knew what was up AND the mutual understanding all women have about how men can behave, but women can't.)

So I left, not sure whether to feel proud of myself or embarrassed. 😂

Then again, why am I the only person feeling embarrassed and/or doing all the apologizing?

I must've apologized to both customers like 8 times, despite the fact that none of it was my fault.

It wasn't my fault the restaurant was behind - and I did tell the customers the moment the restaurant told me they were.

It wasn't my fault one of those customers put in the wrong address, then when she did give it, she gave no directions as to which apartment building, which entrance, or which way to go and the app led me to the office - such that we had to wonder around with flashlights in the dark for 15 extra minutes.

It wasn't my fault that some girl's friend used her DoorDash account to order food.

And yet here I am, the only one apologizing, bowing and scraping repeatedly, for all of it, as if it WAS my fault!

So in a way, Mark is right - but then again, going all Karen in someone's face about it isn't me and it definitely isn't gonna help.

I have got to find that happy medium for me between being patient and understanding VS. when to be assertive, after waiting until I can't take one more minute of it and blow, shocking the shit out of everyone!

Assertiveness is tricky for women in general, but especially in the South - there is essentially just one route - walk away, use humor, even if it's costing you money/time or literally physically hurting you.

I still struggle with that, clearly. Maybe I'll figure it out, someday.

Regardless, even when I feel like I handled something well, why do I still walk away feeling embarrassed for speaking up at all?

I dunno - new question for my therapist  😂